[0x2c8]

> A piece of advice I wish I could give my manager is don't be spooky.

Why not politely talk to your manager and let them know that this behaviour is not appropriate / productive?

[atoav]

While I whole heartedly agree with that you should tell people how to get better, I think if there is one skill a manager should have it is to emphatically communicate.

If a manager doesn't understand the communicative basic that there is always multiple messages:

- the message they intended to send

- the message they actually sent

- the message as it was read by the receiving person

Any decent communicator will always think about how the message/language will be read by the receiver(s). That means if they are a decent communicator this should not happen unless they have a very bad day or something.

[pdimitar]

Because they don't care and will not change anything. Tried it -- no less than 15 times in my long career. Same result every time.

Management by default attracts people who think they cracked it all (lol). It's an ego trip for many and they are usually impossible to truly reason with.

[Brajeshwar]

Most won't, but would instead talk at the managers' back. Many people forget that "I cannot read your mind!"

[jollybean]

The manager's behaviour is absolutely appropriate, and not impolite.

Also, someone with antisocial anxieties like this probably would have difficulty with that kind of confrontation.