[matthewwolfe]

It’s weird to be married and imagine a scenario where my wife and I are arguing hers vs mine. I make approximately 4x more than my wife and we treat all money as shared. Bills are paid from a shared checking and if she wants to buy something she’s more than welcome to.

I think one of the most important aspects of a healthy marriage is being financially aligned. My wife and I are both similarly frugal so it works out well. Any large purchases we make are typically experiences together anyway like a vacation or a new shared car. We always make those decisions as a unit.

Could my wife afford our lifestyle if not for my salary? Probably not. But that’s the joy of being married to my best friend, I can drag her along and elevate her to my level. And she elevates me in so many other ways. Finances is just one piece of a big pie that is marriage.

[mooreds]

> I think one of the most important aspects of a healthy marriage is being financially aligned.

This! I will say I don't think that this aspect is static, just like other aspects of a healthy marriage. You have to keep working to ensure you are both aiming at the same goals.

> And she elevates me in so many other ways. Finances is just one piece of a big pie that is marriage.

Yes! Money is the most easily divisible, but there are so many other contributions required for a marriage. My SO absolutely elevates and supports me in many ways beyond $$$.

[strikelaserclaw]

same, i actually earn much more since i married her since she evens me out and keeps me grounded and happy.

[GordonS]

We do the same, and always have, even before we were married.

It seems very old-fashioned for a married couple to have "mine and yours" in this day and age - I remember my grandparents doing that when I was a kid, and it even seemed old-fangled back then!

[tetris11]

When we were dating, there were times when we had to split the cost of a joint gift or the cost of a holiday, or simply divvyong up rent. We did it proportional by income