[drugstorecowboy]

This expands the definition of "bullying" to include things like not inviting a co-worker to lunch with the rest of the group... while it could be a little rude, thats not bullying. Neither is a boss putting you on the spot in a zoom. Articles like this water down the definition of bullying so far that it makes the term meaningless.

You aren't entitled to love your job, your boss, your co-workers or the company and if you do they likely won't return the sentiment. They aren't your friends or your family and as long as you expect that from them you will be disappointed.

[withinboredom]

Honestly, I’d hate to be invited to lunch with everyone because I would feel like I had to say yes. So inviting me constantly would be annoying. Now if I told my boss I didn’t like to be invited to lunch and they kept doing it… might be that they just don’t like me. I wouldn’t think that I’m being “bullied,” but that maybe I need to get involved in some office politics and hang out with my boss more to earn some respect.

[babycake]

That could be considered harassment, yea. There was a dude who told his boss he didn't want a birthday party due to anxiety and his boss ignored him and just went ahead and did it anyway.

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-61141421

He got a 450$ million payout after the employee sued.

[autoexec]

> There was a dude who told his boss he didn't want a birthday party due to anxiety and his boss ignored him and just went ahead and did it anyway. He got a 450$ million payout after the employee sued.

More specifically, he told his boss he had an anxiety disorder and that a party could cause panic attacks, his boss did it anyway, chewed him out the next day and said he was "being a little girl", suspended him for a couple days and then fired him a couple days after.

He was awarded damages for the emotional distress and lost wages.

Sounds fair considering. "Don't have a party for me on my birthday" is a pretty reasonable accommodation for someone's mental health issues.

[Am4TIfIsER0ppos]

So in this thread you say it bullying to both invite someone to lunch and not invite someone to lunch.

[babycake]

Of course, it depends on the person. If the person doesn't want lunch, and the boss keeps singling you out to go, that kinda disrespects you. And vice versa.

People are not all the same. Some people are shy, some people are gregarious. Respect their nature, that's it. When someone who has power over you just disregards you as a person, that's both not professional AND abusive if it happens over and over again. It's not a hard concept to get.

[babycake]

That's absolutely false. Bullying doesn't have to be just physical abuse, everything you listed definitely counts. While you don't have to be 'friends' with people at work, that's kind of irrelevant. Why not ask why this behavior is even acceptable in the first place, especially when work is supposed to be a professional environment?