[xedrac]

I had a very strong coach work with me on this exact problem. He required me to reframe my definition of what it means to win. Basically it came down the the quality of effort I put into the game. If I put everything I have into a game and lose, it now feels like a win, because I know it will make me stronger. Conversely, if I don't give a good effort, but happen to win the game, I count that as a loss. This only applies to longer time control games. I still play blitz now and then for light fun.

[bionsystem]

I think it's a great approach and I try something along those lines. However it requires some form of self-persuasion which is hard to get when you are just binge-playing quick games.

I feel doing what you advise + playing slower games (for me usually 10min + increment) + doing puzzles is a great combination. It forces me to calculate more variations than just the most likely candidate move, and to think about positions more. I still tilt in blitz a lot but I tilt much less when I follow my own advise.