[ifelsethenyeah]

Checklist people who act like they're entitled to order a person at Burger King are perpetual unicorn chasers. The ego and self-absorption of those types is suffocating.

The good stuff is when it's effortless at first. For the long term, both parties have to be willing to put in the work to cooperate with another differently opinionated, fallible human being. Too many people ("middle-class" Americans 20-35) behave in an entitled manner without putting in the effort or the reciprocity. They're indeed special, like everyone else.

Edit: Also, you should know how someone behaves in extreme situations because that reveals their character. "Do you trust them with your life and everything else?" is the question that must be resolved eventually in the affirmative to consider them a dependable and trustworthy keeper.

[actfrench]

I tend to think that when you have a checklist, you're approaching a partner as if they are merchandise for sale. It's better to look at what you share between you, like good communication, love, attraction.

[actfrench]

But also, I think that sometimes people have checklists because they are actually really insecure about intimacy. So, I have great empathy for that.

[ifelsethenyeah]

Ah, good ol' insecure attachment styles, emotional unavailability, and/or fear of abandonment.

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BTW: If you want to be immensely unpopular with most people, get good ones tagging along with other good ones of their preferred general demographics. It's absolutely revolting when people consider others besides themselves without ulterior motive but to be cool. :peace: