[actfrench]

I tend to think that when you have a checklist, you're approaching a partner as if they are merchandise for sale. It's better to look at what you share between you, like good communication, love, attraction.

[actfrench]

But also, I think that sometimes people have checklists because they are actually really insecure about intimacy. So, I have great empathy for that.

[ifelsethenyeah]

Ah, good ol' insecure attachment styles, emotional unavailability, and/or fear of abandonment.

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BTW: If you want to be immensely unpopular with most people, get good ones tagging along with other good ones of their preferred general demographics. It's absolutely revolting when people consider others besides themselves without ulterior motive but to be cool. :peace: