[FooBarBizBazz]

I mean, getting along with co-worker is great. And yes, you can do that, and should.

But the interplay of money and status-games at work can really mess these things up. Things are great when you're just hanging out with peers. But what happens when the boss shows up? What happens when the peers become your superiors or subordinates? What happens when the company starts having layoffs, or stack-ranking? These relationships go to shit.

There are also a lot of invisible boundaries that need to be maintained, not least around sexuality.

So no, don't detest your coworkers. Maybe even invest in friendships with them. But understand that, until you're working for different companies, there needs to be a little bit of a wall.

[Gigachad]

Your comment seems to be true of US big tech, but at Australian startups, no one is worried about being too friendly and getting canceled. Where I work the managers and execs attend these parties too and no one is afraid of saying the wrong thing.

Walking on eggshells in US big tech just doesn't seem worth it.