| What I have realised is that there is no trick or shortcut to communicate better. You have to read more, be more knowledgeable, practice speaking and writing, then you will have more intelligent things to say. Also the fear of making mistake is what holds back. To let creativity flourish you have to let yourself go, not be afraid of being wrong, not be afraid of opening up or be judged. For that you also need to have sincere good intentions and straightforward life that is not based on lies. Then there is nothing to be afraid of from spilling your thoughts. As you do it more, you learn that opening up produces good results, and people don't judge you as much as you thought they would, this creates feedback loop which extinguishes your anxiety in future. This is why talking to different people that force you to open up and be transparent also helps to unblock that blockage. I see that a lot of people have basic hangups about opening up deeply. And it does more bad than good. I'd be much more likely to accept the person when he is upfront about his worries, than a mr. perfect who is stonewalling every question and answers them the way he is expected to answer, but not in a deeply truthful way. Nobody is perfect, we just want to work with real humans, not robots. Opening up about your imperfections provokes empathy. Selling yourself too strongly provokes skepticism. As for the interview, the reason you seem unconfident is because you are unconfident. That means most likely you are trying to pretend to be someone you are not. |
Communication takes practice and experience. Not everyone has enough of that and it's especially hard for folks who are not using their native language.
One thing that helps, in many scenarios, is to "take turns" driving the discussion. The OP could be more forward about asking questions and making commentary. It's never all about "logical flow and coherence". It's more about opening up a line of inquiry with the other person and relating to them on a human level.