[crispyambulance]

Mostly agree, however, it's NOT necessarily the case that the OP is "trying to be someone they're not".

Communication takes practice and experience. Not everyone has enough of that and it's especially hard for folks who are not using their native language.

One thing that helps, in many scenarios, is to "take turns" driving the discussion. The OP could be more forward about asking questions and making commentary. It's never all about "logical flow and coherence". It's more about opening up a line of inquiry with the other person and relating to them on a human level.