[farmerstan]

Failing as a person is if you betray your friends, if you kick someone who is already down, taking advantage of people, etc. THAT is failing as a person.

You are not failing as a person. Do not define your self-worth as you having a job or money. You are going through hard times. Everyone goes through hard times. That doesn’t mean you are failing as a person.

Take a short break from job hunting and pick it back up again. You tying your self worth to your job may be what’s causing undue stress thsts making it harder on you. It’s a job. It’s not who you are as a person. Understanding that even if you get a shitty job that pays the bills, it doesn’t decrease your value. Get any job you can, just use it as a breather, collect your emotions and thoughts and when you feel better level up to a new job.

[dirtybirdnj]

I tried working at a commercial pizza kitchen for about six months. I loved the creative cooking aspect of it. I hated the monotonous, thankless backbreaking work.

At the end of the week I lost all my time, and I had hardly enough money to pay the bills let alone disposable income. It was a net negative on my wallet and it was physically destructive to me, I was sore and worn out and that was a huge motivator to finally quit (getting a job offer helped).

I just want people to understand that the whole "take a break" thing is an incredible luxury not everybody can do. I don't have a job yet every day is stressful not knowing how I will solve the problems of tomorrow. Even if I do things to try to get my mind off it, those problems still exist when I return and often are worse because I ignored them to focus on myself.

> collect your emotions and thoughts and when you feel better level up to a new job.

I burned out a few years ago and while I am trying to recover I am starting to wonder if I ever will

[farmerstan]

I didn’t mean an extended break. I meant a break like a long weekend where you try not to think about it. Bra does like that at help clear your mind if possible.

The biggest things is stop feeling like a failure. That causes a negative feedback loop that will continue a pattern of bad decisions making. Forgive yourself and Clear your head.

[dirtybirdnj]

I agree with everything in your original post. Its like riding a bicycle you can't grip the handlebars too hard or you negatively impact your ability to steer properly.

Cultivating forgiveness and empathy for myself is a lifelong journey. It's really hard but positive comments from people like yourself helps a lot. Thank you.