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by kwyjibo1230 1548 days ago
Interesting wiki article, very insightful! As a manager myself, I think it's very important to be aware of whether you are playing the "rescuer" and perpetuating dysfunction, or acting as a "coach" and helping others to actually change and learn.
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Don’t fool yourself - most managers would fall into Persecutor camp not the Rescuer ime.
It is incredibly easy and ego-inflationary for people playing the persecutor role to see themselves as rescuers.
Definitely tracks with the human tendency to judge yourself by intentions, and others by actions
The wiki covers that scenario. The rescuer uses their role to say they "tried" and then justify negative feelings to the victim. Essentially becoming the persecutor