[deweller]

Perfectionism can be a symptom of codependence. Codependence is a loaded word, but understand that many, many people struggle with codependence to some degree.

Us codependent personalities gain our sense of well-being based on what others think about us. So, everything has to be perfect because the prospect of rejection is very scary. I view a rejection of my work as a rejection of me to an exaggerated degree.

If this rings true to you, my advice is to find a good book on codependency or begin seeing a counselor and begin to understand yourself a little more.

[copperx]

We are wired to react to how others perceive us. I wouldn't call that codependency, which is a term that should only be used in substance abuse scenarios.

[deweller]

Codependency became broadly known in the context of relationships involving alcohol and substance abuse.

But it's definition is much broader than that. And, I would argue, much more common.