[Throwaway8373]

Not as much porn use as very regular ejaculation.

I have started to look into sexuality and tantra, and it really seems like there are some effects people will only see after 5-6 days abstinence.

And yes, the added energy will definitely also make men more willing to do the hunt, if they don't ejaculate 2 times a day.

Porn, however, seems to be the enabler of so much ejaculation.

Then again: The risk / unknowns of getting a partner can definitely also outweigh the cons of abstinence.

[globular-toast]

In my last long-term relationship, in the first year I stopped using porn completely as I was completely satisfied with sex. As time went on sex with the same partner becomes less exciting, even if you love them. By year 3 I found sometimes I would not be excited enough for fulfilling sex (I'm a mid-30s man). What I found was that watching porn improved this a lot. It made me excited again, but I still ejaculated exclusively into my partner. It wasn't that I would think about porn during sex or anything either. It just caused me to see her in a different light somehow. But if I got carried away and ejaculated while watching porn it was over for at least 2-3 days. Completely dead sex drive. So yeah, I've come to agree that it's ejaculating while watching porn that is the real bad thing. Porn itself I think can be bad too, but for other reasons.

[malfist]

> the added energy will definitely also make men more willing to do the hunt

You know this sounds creepy right? Misogynistic?

Women are more than trophies to be won in a hunt. They're people, just like you and I.

[Throwaway8373]

Well, this is only in the context of courtship, which is _inherently_ sexually polarizing. You most _definitely should not_ bring this view into the work place. In that case you are in your right to call is misogynistic.

And this comment is also a prime example of the derailment that leads to the vanilla meeting between the genders.

(I expect people to be able the read "masculine core" for men and "feminine core" for women)

[hef19898]

Treating people as trophies to be won is the problem. And yes, seeing it, as a man, as a pure hinting exercise misogynistic. Also contra productive.

[jhanschoo]

> the added energy will definitely also make men more willing to do the hunt

Perhaps it is you with your interpretation that is misogynistic. The person was writing focusing on men, but both men and women are on the hunt for a compatible partner with which they could build a fulfilling relationship.

[Jensson]

You called women trophies, they didn't. You can hunt for a job etc, it is a general term for when you put in effort towards finding/getting something.

[educaysean]

This feels like a rather uncharitable interpretation. Entering into in an exclusive relationship with someone means you have come out ahead of other potential "competitors" and are able to claim the reward: access to the elevated relationship with the said individual, and not necessarily the individual themselves.

Do you also take issue with the phrases like "How to win his heart" or "You need to win her over"?

[Bancakes]

It's the reality of biology. You cannot avoid this.

[ben_w]

Trophy relationships are avoidable. Heck, I know Ace people who started families.

[Bancakes]

Trophy relationship menas you actively went out to look for a proper partner and earned it. It's normal animal behavior to hunt for the best mate.