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by globular-toast 1579 days ago
In my last long-term relationship, in the first year I stopped using porn completely as I was completely satisfied with sex. As time went on sex with the same partner becomes less exciting, even if you love them. By year 3 I found sometimes I would not be excited enough for fulfilling sex (I'm a mid-30s man). What I found was that watching porn improved this a lot. It made me excited again, but I still ejaculated exclusively into my partner. It wasn't that I would think about porn during sex or anything either. It just caused me to see her in a different light somehow. But if I got carried away and ejaculated while watching porn it was over for at least 2-3 days. Completely dead sex drive. So yeah, I've come to agree that it's ejaculating while watching porn that is the real bad thing. Porn itself I think can be bad too, but for other reasons.