[cancelled]

To onlookers it appears that I spent years a decade ago going on racist and sexist tirades. I would love just to own it and be honest, but the way things were set against me, it just looks like I'm making excuses for myself. The whole situation is FUBAR. Even the police weren't able to help

[awb]

> To onlookers it appears that I spent years a decade ago going on racist and sexist tirades

You’re hinting that it appears that way, but wasn’t actually that way. So what’s your side of the story? Why is your history not what it seems?

I don’t know your details, but if there’s any truth to the accusations, then it might be worth considering owning it. Something like: A long time ago, I made a big mistake by ________, but I’ve learned from it and am committed to ________. Sure, some people won’t forgive you, but some might.

Again, I don’t know the details, but someone denying something is sometimes harder to believe than someone that owns it. But, if it’s all gaslighting is it too difficult to explain how it’s been “all set up against you”?

Some more details might be helpful if you’d like specific advice.

[orangepurple]

PR departments don't care about your story. If you are an untouchable because of a radioactive online presence that's an unnecessary reputational risk to the company for associating with you. Welcome to the new world order social credit system.

[mod]

He presented his side in OP.

He didn't make the posts. Someone convinced other people that the comments came from an account he controlled.

[awb]

Kind of, but then there’s this:

> I admit, the evidence is convincing to the onlooker.

That’s what I’m confused about. Why is the evidence so convincing? Why wouldn’t a simple rejection suffice?

“I didn’t write those things and was appalled when I read it for the first time not long ago.”

I feel like there are some key missing details to the story.

[askafriend]

I almost guarantee that he had something to do with those racist/sexist comments. I find it unlikely that someone else would be controlling an account under his name publicly for YEARS without his knowledge.

Even if he himself didn't post the comments, he must have known that it was going on at the time and probably knows the person who did do it.

"I didn't do it - it was someone else under my name" is the equivalent of "the dog ate my homework". I definitely agree with you - there are key missing detail - conveniently so.

[snotrockets]

He presented the equivalent of "I did not have sexual relations with that woman"

[ceilingcorner]

This never works. The mob is a fickle beast and wants blood, always and forever, and will never forgive even the most repentant sinner.

If you are ever accused of something, rightly or wrongly, never accede and never give in.

[tayo42]

> I would love just to own it and be honest, but the way things were set against me, it just looks like I'm making excuses for myself.

It sounds like it worth a try to just own it though? from skimming the posts here if your truly considering changing your name, it doesn't seem like it would make things that much worse for you.

maybe some mental health/therapy stuff if you can get it. sounds traumatic, working with someone might help get things straightened out, less stress etc?