[cheschire]

Per Myers-Briggs, I am an extrovert.

People exhaust me though because I feel an obligation to engage them. A subconscious need to interact with someone walking by. And I pick up on every single noise that occurs around me wondering if someone needs help or would benefit from a bit of information I have that they need.

And yet I've learned even if I have information they are seeking, they often don't want or appreciate me sharing the information if it comes off slightly wrong, so I have to tip toe through the process of delivering them the information in a way that doesn't come off as patronizing, only supportive and at the same time belittling myself or making the situation seem like it was only luck that I was exposed to this information so as to not seem like a know-it-all. It's exhausting.

This is barely scratching the surface of why I dislike full time office work. And yet I need at least part time office work. I feel lost and out of touch without it.

edit: and wow apparently I'm not the only one.

[_y5hn]

Have you considered that you may be sensitive? Most people don't give a fuck, but you do?

If so, there's only one route: Start ignoring people. Don't offer advice until asked for. Never give full answers, only pointers.

You'll be doing others, and yourself, a big favour. It won't clear all distractions, but it'll start you on focusing on yourself rather than others. When people come to you, they'll be ready for an answer, you'll be more appreciated and have more capacity left to provide more clarity.

Took 10 years to get anywhere, so have patience and be kind.