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by amelius 1771 days ago
I think the underlying, subconscious question is: if they are not sharing any of that wealth, would you still consider them a friend?
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Hint: the answer should be yes
Ok, what if you were married to someone who suddenly made millions but didn't share any of the wealth with you, but consumed it all themselves?

Even if you hate that you are jealous, would you consider it fair of them to put this much stress on your psychological well-being, thereby putting your relationship at risk?

That's a legal question and the answer in most countries is - they can't do that. From non-legal side - people don't have the same expectation from marriage and friendship.
Well, according to my question they live in a country where they can :)

And, no, this was not a legal question at all. Can you pinpoint what exactly makes the expectation of friendship and marriage different in this context? Assume both people have full-time jobs, both take care of children the same amount of time, etc.

> Can you pinpoint what exactly makes the expectation of friendship and marriage different in this context?

No, I believe you're trolling at this point. I'll end here.

Ad hominem response to an honest philosophical question.
Most people have only one spouse and many friends, and probably more people claiming to be friends if they hear there’s money in it.
I dislike that this is downvoted. I think it's a meaningful question. If I could spend a 1% of my net worth to ensure my closest friends and family never had to work again, and that 1% had no meaningful difference in my own quality of life, I would absolutely do that. I would treat myself plenty if I had lots of money, but most of it I would spend on those close to me. I don't really see the point of most of it otherwise.

I think it says something about someone's character if they sacrifice very little of their own to make a big difference for those around them. it doesn't necessarily mean that if they don't that they're a bad person, but it is something to consider why they wouldn't.