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by bakedbeanz 1840 days ago
Snide viewpoints like this are one of the main reasons people with mental illness often hide their conditions and suffer in silence.

Oh, you have the gall to mention how depression or anxiety manifests in your life? You better stop flaunting your psychological frailty!
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Red_Leaves_Flyy 1840 days ago
>Snide viewpoints like this are one of the main reasons people with mental illness often hide their conditions and suffer in silence.

It is profoundly psychologically damaging to be forced to cooperate (work, live, socialize) with such people who tacitly dehumanize those they do not understand with casual and capricious ease, such as the way the top level commenter dismisses the OP with a superficial and borderline bad faith analysis of the link at hand.

No one should ever have to justify their feelings. That’s it’s. That’s my point. Hard stop.

As a society, culture, community we need to get to the point where we respect the feelings of others implicitly. Feelings are not equations, there are no right or wrong answers. By implicitly acknowledging all the feelings of others we are respecting each other and nurturing common ground where we can discuss the differences that underlie perception and create an environment ripe for interpersonal growth. Failure to do so breeds resentment and festers in the homes, workplaces, and communities where the feelings of some are neglected.

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stuff4ben 1840 days ago
It's one thing to mention it, quite another to continually moan about it day in and day out. Yes, I have empathy for your situation and if you need help, I can be there. But the rest is on you and not me. I don't need to see continual Facebook posts about it. There is quite a bit of sympathy-gathering that's taken hold and it's getting ridiculous.
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ABCLAW 1840 days ago
"Yes, I have empathy for your situation"

"I don't need to see continual Facebook posts about it."

Framing someone's struggle purely in terms of how it annoys you makes you come across as something other than empathetic.

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stuff4ben 1840 days ago
Clearly you didn't read all of my comment. Continually moaning about it is not doing anything about it except being a drama-queen. Yes I have empathy, but endless Facebook "woe is me..." posts are not the key to getting help.
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ABCLAW 1840 days ago
>Clearly you didn't read all of my comment.

I did. I also read this post.

Saying you are empathetic while also uniformly dismissing those you claim to empathize with doesn't ring too clear. No evidence of empathy, lots of evidence of dismissal.

Just my 2c as someone looking at how the issue has been framed.

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stuff4ben 1840 days ago
"Reading comprehension" my friend. I said "continually moaning" as in repeatedly doing that. I have empathy, I don't have unlimited empathy. At some point when a friend or loved one just wants to post on FB about how shitty their depression is, they're not really interested in getting better but just in the attention. If you can't understand that, be thankful you don't have someone like that in your life.
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