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by stuff4ben 1845 days ago
It's one thing to mention it, quite another to continually moan about it day in and day out. Yes, I have empathy for your situation and if you need help, I can be there. But the rest is on you and not me. I don't need to see continual Facebook posts about it. There is quite a bit of sympathy-gathering that's taken hold and it's getting ridiculous.
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"Yes, I have empathy for your situation"

"I don't need to see continual Facebook posts about it."

Framing someone's struggle purely in terms of how it annoys you makes you come across as something other than empathetic.

Clearly you didn't read all of my comment. Continually moaning about it is not doing anything about it except being a drama-queen. Yes I have empathy, but endless Facebook "woe is me..." posts are not the key to getting help.
>Clearly you didn't read all of my comment.

I did. I also read this post.

Saying you are empathetic while also uniformly dismissing those you claim to empathize with doesn't ring too clear. No evidence of empathy, lots of evidence of dismissal.

Just my 2c as someone looking at how the issue has been framed.

"Reading comprehension" my friend. I said "continually moaning" as in repeatedly doing that. I have empathy, I don't have unlimited empathy. At some point when a friend or loved one just wants to post on FB about how shitty their depression is, they're not really interested in getting better but just in the attention. If you can't understand that, be thankful you don't have someone like that in your life.