[philipswood]

Strange that.

I'm not really responsible for getting edible food, drinkable water, warmth, cover, shelter from the elements, protection from hostile animals or enemy humans.

I also don't have to actually make anything with my own hands.

So, yeah, indirectly I do some of these things by earning a salary, paying bills and buying stuff, but I not sure that the work I do day to day is much more complex or responsible than what an equivalent neolithic hunter gatherer would be doing.

I don't on a daily basis do things that could get me or my family members killed if I did them wrong.

Also a lot of what we consider primitive skills take a lot more art or technique than we appreciate. Flint tools look like they might take real skill do do well.

[balfirevic]

> I don't on a daily basis do things that could get me or my family members killed if I did them wrong.

Do you drive?

[philipswood]

Point taken.

Though currently during the pandemic the amount of driving I'm doing is limited and tends to low speeds and short distances.

I found it ironic a few years ago when I did a bungee jump that the jump crew had no significant jump injuries after more than a 100k jumps, but they had lost several crew members to road accidents.

[swader999]

The most dangerous part of a ski day is usually the drive.

[manmal]

Driving is certainly the most stressful activity I’m doing on a regular basis - the stakes are really high, death is just a few seconds away. It feels strangely archaic to have this level of risk built into day to day life. I recently got a car with modern safety features and life really feels safer just because of that. I know that the car will start beeping if I drift off course, and on the highway it’s quite unlikely to crash into the car in front of me.

[codingdave]

On a daily basis? No, I don't. And I live 15 minutes outside of the nearest town, a mile from my nearest neighbor, so if I get by driving once or twice a week, surely those who actually live in cities can get by without driving as well.

[WarOnPrivacy]

Less than 5% of the people I've known didn't have significant driving associated with their work.

This is over decades, across different metro areas.

[yoz-y]

This really depends on location. For me for example that number would be inverted.

[codingdave]

Me, too. In my 30 years of works across numerous metro areas, I've been able to commute by train, bus, bike, or walk for 25 out of 30 of those years. Most people I worked with likewise could do it without a car. Some people chose to drive, but it was not at all a requirement.

[WarOnPrivacy]

Understood. I can't speak to outside the US, for example.

In any given moment in the US, I know people who live inside major cities, inside metro areas and in rural areas.

Of that group, the number of working folks w/ little to no work-related driving time is very small.

[cozzyd]

rarely, but biking is even more dangerous (though typically this is because of other people doing the wrong thing).

[WarOnPrivacy]

> I'm not really responsible for getting edible food, drinkable water, warmth, cover, shelter from the elements, protection from hostile animals or enemy humans.

You seem to be disregarding the countless unplanned for things that people assume aren't going to clutter up their lives.

A tiny, tiny portion of the things that consume meaningful time each week: trying to turn health insurance into usable medical care or getting any insurance to pay out filed claims - complex family finances such as tracking multiple credit cards to maintain a credit rating - tracking multiple income streams for tax purposes - shopping for clothes such as trying to figure out how to buy shoes online without scoring a pair that sat so long the soles won't hold, doing that again when they're out of stock, and again, and again - helping kids with homework, inc puzzling out unfamiliar educational methods that school districts change every few years - time spent commuting - time spent maintaining older vehicles - shuttling kids to and from activities - civic and community responsibilities - years of education followed by ongoing education and certifications in your field - every part of being self employed - caring for a family member who has profound, chronic disabilities - personal medical maintenance for a chronic condition - locating a product that that is suddenly not available because it's the only one that doesn't make your kid sick - taking pets to the vet - keeping the property up to keep the HOA off your back - suing the HOA when they're on your back anyway - fighting to get your street repaved - proving to Amazon your 7k box arrived empty - fixing your appliances - researching which appliances won't fall apart months after you buy them - pursuing an appliance warranty claim because your research didn't pan out - researching medical claims to see if changes to diet or sleep would reduce exhaustion - handling the aftermath of a traffic accident - protecting your family from surveillance capitalism - contacting your county about a traffic light issue - doing anything at all at the DMV - filing local, state and federal taxes - getting your car inspected - getting it inspected again after some arcane violation is spotted - fighting with ISP every month over bogus recurring charges - adopting out the kittens that appeared in your front garden - perusing a service connected disability when the VA lost your military records - documenting a bad neighbor - handling CPS when your bad neighbor figures out they can report you anonymously - handling the estate of a loved one who sucked at organization - putting your own post-death affairs in order - proving a SS disability claim - researching each political candidate and issue instead of party-line voting - being a payee - mental healthcare - handling the recurring fallout from someone else's MI - helping people move - helping someone who is elderly and lives alone - finding a new homeowner's policy when your insurer won't renew, doing that again next year, and the year after that....

Anyone could post a completely different list.

All of these time estimates go way up if you're poor, work two jobs and have $100 to cover $500 of need.

[a9h74j]

One reason Lewis Mumford suggested that if you include the care and feeding of cars and earning taxes to pay for roads and regulations, it could be quicker to walk or use a wheelbarrow.

[lurquer]

I read your list. It’s very comprehensive.

I’d wager an average person from any previous century would trade places with you in a heartbeat.

Indeed, I bet an average resident of many third-world countries would do the same.

In fact, I bet the average resident of the average trailer park ten miles from where you live would trade places with you.

[WarOnPrivacy]

> I read your list. It’s very comprehensive.

Incorrect. It is a small subset.

> I’d wager an average person from any previous century would trade places with you in a heartbeat. Indeed, I bet an average resident of many third-world countries would do the same.

Sure. Many would. Others would be overwhelmed by the complexity of not just required hours in the day (which tend to increase for the very poor) but also by the many thousands of laws and regulations that can ding us if we run afoul of them. Past that are myriad of requirements from different corps in our lives.

As with some others here, you seem to be confusing (or maybe conflating) 'hard' (as in starvation, disease and invasion) with complex (as in complex).

> In fact, I bet the average resident of the average trailer park ten miles from where you live would trade places with you.

I'll take that bet. Over the last decade we were frequently without food and my wife's mental illness brought ceaseless, life-changing misery to our household. I could go on for many paragraphs but I think this sets the stage.

Where do I collect?

[lurquer]

Sorry to hear about your wife. And your lack of food.

Similar items were in your list. I ignored them.

Because those issues are universal at all times and at all places.

Dealing with a mentally ill wife in the 1300s was, I would bet, a bit more ‘complex’ and draining that dealing with a mentally ill wife in a modern city with emergency psych wards, effective drugs (available for convenient pick-up at pharmacies on nearly every corner), and entire industry of psychiatrists, psychologists, counselors, etc.

I mean, if we are comparing apples to apples, I’d much rather have a mental illness issue in a family member today versus 100 years ago. I’d rather not have the issue present at all, but that’s not a comparison. I mean, you could just as well say, “Trade places with me?! I’m a balding quadriplegic typing this with my nose! I challenge you to find any 13th century peasant who would be willing to trade places with me!”

Edit: I’d chime in with the other response. Namely, you sound very stressed out. I wish your situation wasn’t so complex. Seriously. Hang in there.

[WarOnPrivacy]

> Dealing with a mentally ill wife in the 1300s was, I would bet, a bit more ‘complex’ and draining that dealing with a mentally ill wife in a modern city with emergency psych wards, effective drugs (available for convenient pick-up at pharmacies on nearly every corner), and entire industry of psychiatrists, psychologists, counselors, etc.

It'd be simpler then because there was simply nothing to do.

> I’d chime in with the other response. Namely, you sound very stressed out. I wish your situation wasn’t so complex. Seriously. Hang in there.

Thanks. This is hardly just me tho. My challenges are mid-grade. Just in the US are many millions who have far more difficult challenges. That something so prevalent might not be well-known is interesting.

[WarOnPrivacy]

> Similar items were in your list. I ignored them.

I've noticed a trend here to fixate on individual items on the list. This obfuscates it's point - which is that the modern life = simple bliss analysis omits the vast bulk of everything that is required of us.

Over the course of a year, about how many laws, regulations and requirements do you figure you'll be forced to consider?

Few will only need to be handled once. And all that together is a minor requirement of all that's expected of us.

Honestly tho. Resisting the notion that our lives are immensely complex compared to any point in history is an odd thing to do.

I won't go as far as to tag it complexity-denialism. Not even in a passive-aggressive way.

[manmal]

I hope I don’t offend you by suggesting this, and I’m ready to face a hard rejection - but you could probably benefit from saying No to obligations/responsibilities more often, and caring a little bit less about always doing the right thing. Murphy’s law means people fill their life with complexity until there’s no room left.

[WarOnPrivacy]

> I hope I don’t offend you by suggesting this, and I’m ready to face a hard rejection - but you could probably benefit from saying No to obligations/responsibilities more often

A couple of things. I'm outlining common challenges so your advice would have to be applied broadly. You'd be asking a large chunk of the population to not be engaged in their community, etc.

Past that, my not-absolutely-critical activities did wind down when catastrophe after catastrophe became the new norm. In that phase, what was left was minimal for survival. Letting any of that go would just tack-on another catastrophe.

Again - the larger point is that I wasn't an outlier for the whole of the US. However, within the group that have the resources to post here, midday, I might be an outlier.

[manmal]

Fair enough!

I'm from the EU, and we do approach things differently here - e.g. we pay more taxes and social security (net income is probably 70% or less of what a dev with my experience makes in the US), but as a result don't have to take care of the community so much. Cities/state/church are taking care mostly, and they do get paid for that.

Roads are most of the time not a problem - where I'm living at least. We had a pothole in our street three years ago, I called a number, and a week later it was fixed.

With two kids, I could get away for a few weeks with just driving them and the wife to school/kindergarten/work, and ordering groceries online. I have an electric car which I charge at home and which doesn't need any maintenance besides the once-a-year checkup. Aside from that, there are hardly any must-dos.

I did help friends move when we were younger, but now they just hire companies for that. Certainly wouldn't feel obligated to help someone move, what with having the kids at home and all.

If there's time for more activities, fine (we usually do loads of stuff); but if catastrophe hits, then the week might be boring for everybody, but the freed up energy can be spent to work on the issue at hand. I understand and appreciate that it is a _very_ privileged situation I'm in, but I also know that I'm not really an outlier among software developers in my country.

Maybe this is not feasible where you are living and in your situation. But maybe you can scale down even more than you thought.