My wife couldn't work because she had two young children with severe medical conditions, and she hasn't worked since then. I have a decent career, but it never paid well enough. The company didn't seem to mind that I was trying to support four people on my receiving salary.
It was hard for me; many sleepless nights are thinking about surviving with this low salary alone. I asked my boss for a raise; I was fired for requesting a raise. It was a dark time for me; I'll struggle if I must, just for the sake of my beloved family.
This can happen if you just don't read the room right.
Although getting fired for something like this implies you are already on thin ice, and you basically pushed your luck.
All respect to the op though, these companies aren't your friends, and the very second you have a better opportunity you need to take it. By far the best experiences of my early adulthood was getting fired, I learned at a young age to not feel any loyalty to these companies. They don't care if your wife, or your kids are sick. They don't care if you need HealthCare coverage to keep living, they only care about the bottom line
LA is a horrible place to live , had I been 19 today I'd end up on the streets since housing is so much more expensive now. Stop thinking about what "society" will do to solve homelessness. Garcetti has no real ability, nor will , to fix LA. Leave while you still can. I had to estrange myself from my family , but hell. I went from 25k in credit card debt to 40k saved up. When I moved to Chicago my cost of living dropped by 30% , I had an amazing partner and for the first time in a good while felt hope. I can't express enough how horrible LA is.
I think a lot of big cities are terrible places to live. People only live there because it's close to work, and work is only there because the people they want to hire have already bought houses there.
Definitely dealing with an ending relationship. It was so hard to square the fact that I really liked and cared about the person but couldn't see a future with them. I've never second guessed myself so much in my life and had never felt so hurtful to another person.
One job I had was in many ways an awesome place with great people and was financially extremely solid. Technically a bit boring but that was kinda ok.
What was not ok was the second founder of the company, who was a dictionary definition of "expert beginner", who was unable to accept other views except his own, and gleefully used his power to enforce his views. I ended up working against him in many places, initially with the full support of my team and manager, but then something flipped and I was going against him alone.
That's the only job where I regurarily woke up in the middle of the night to a work-related dream and could not fall asleep for the rest of the night. I used to take pride for being flexible and not lashing out at other people just because I was having a hard time. But everyone has a breaking point, so I became inflexible and lashed out at people.
I hated who I had become. I was eventually sort of fired from that place, and have worked in several good places since, but I will never forget that... that feeling of the tribe I used to trust turning against me.
Right now. The company I'm running is in a great position to start real growth, the market is right and large, our implementation is better than competitors and defensible from them. My co-founder and I are exactly the right people to be doing this. We have our 3rd time around YC interview coming up soon and Techstars also has some interest in us. I however have been full time for 5 months and have 2 months worth of savings left in my bank account. However, I have never believed in anything else I've co-founded as much as this before and I'm walking the edge to make it work. This is either going to go really well or really bad no middle ground, wish me luck!
As an adult? Being involuntarily unemployed at the beginning of my career. Circa 2001. Made about 10 phone calls a day for two months to land a crap job that paid the bills. Worst part? No decent marijuana around.
As a child? Being in love. Circa 15 y/o. No male role models in my life, neglectful home. A recipe for disaster.
Thankfully, I figured all that shit out. IMHO Took longer than it should have (given an optimal setup and looking at my peers), but we all have to play the cards we're dealt.
It was the start of the 2017 bear market. Bear cycle wiped out almost all of my savings from my portfolio. I can't describe how stressed I am during those days. We should always have a backup plan in every decision we're going to make. This scenario should serve as a learning experience for all of us.
Move to Amsterdam, we have similar changes in the making, but for now the going is still good as a contractor. Rates are similar to London and the language on the workplace is usually English.
I work for a Dutch bank based out of the UK. My issue is they can only issue me a UK contract. I was thinking about moving over to Dubai for a few obvious reasons.
My main challenge is if I want to go back to contracting properly I need to change roles. After three years of trying to build a startup it is hard to walk away...
My childhood. Coming from a place with lots of (domestic) violence and severe psychological abuse.
Adulthood is troublesome as well for me, but it isn't the most stressful so far. It feels like a never-ending ultra marathon on crutches. And that's ADHD for me. Making my life harder for no real benefit.
Being relieved from my job in 2010, I was so comfortable in my position to the point that I don't see myself being relieved. I was shocked at that time; I can't believe what just happened. I don't have the guts to ask my employer what is the reason why I was leaving my job.
The most stressful period of my life is nearly our graduation, but I haven't received any job offers yet.
I have good grades; I created many side projects during my college days, but I still wonder why I can't get any offers. I don't know what to do at that time.
Graduating in the middle of the great recession. Searched 6 months for a job, found one in the end but seeing your savings evaporate while friends are really happy about getting a job delivering pizzas was quite stressful.
Backstory: 4 of us joined to make a product. 2 of the 4 people had the idea and invited me and another guy to join them in making it happen. All cool.
Except that I didn't quite like one of the 2 'idea' founders. Objectively he's a great potential business partner, has a ton of ideas etc - a hustler type, but he has some character traits that really get on my nerves.
Ex. tyrannic way of suggesting changes + all of the decisions eventually have to go his way. You can fight it, but it drains so. much. energy. Micromanaging tyrant would be a good summary.
Anyhow, I knew this but still went in after disclosing my concerns to the other 'idea' founder. I was confident that I will find a way to work with him, and actually made a challenge to myself to at least use the situation and learn how to handle that kind of people. But long story short, eventually the friction made the partnership too uncomfortable + the product failed (technically his fault in the marketing department), so naturally our contact dissolved away.
I still think I could handle our conflicts (while coding the product) in a better way, but ultimately the biggest benefit I got out of the whole ordeal was honing my bullshit alarms and detectors. Also improving in saying no, but that's still quite a long way from where I'd like it to be.
Guess when I got into a really chilling & nice job but with hostile work environment. It kind of was really bad. Although it become much much better with time. Was near quitting but didn't.
Without a doubt college / the one time I was unemployed for 6 months and desperately trying to find work while being too stressed to actually study for interviews.
Why is working for Accenture is a stressful time? I am genuinely curious, May I know the details about it? I am currently studying CS, and I would like to learn more about Accenture as it is one of the best IT companies.
It's not really a software company, more services and consulting. They pay very well (in Europe anyway) to get the best and most driven graduates to generate income and will work them hard. They aren't that interested in delivering quality software but more what contracts they can get in place for support and repeat business. I worked for a similar company on graduation in the UK and received excellent training, OK money, and met lots of likeminded people so I'd say it was a good start to my career.
If I was purely interested in development/software I probably wouldn't have wanted to work there.
It was hard for me; many sleepless nights are thinking about surviving with this low salary alone. I asked my boss for a raise; I was fired for requesting a raise. It was a dark time for me; I'll struggle if I must, just for the sake of my beloved family.