[cairoshikobon]

As someone with a heavy accent, I dislike dating apps...

I can write and sound and look like a certain group, but when I meet people in real life my accent becomes an instant turn-off. That's why I decided to only ever go out with ones whom we met first in real life. Not to mention the privacy implications. Lookup stories of people whose photos were used by scammers in other countries on dating apps..

[whalesalad]

On a dating app you are selling yourself. If you are not selling yourself accurately, that is not something you can blame on others. Put it in your profile: I have a thick accent.

[cairoshikobon]

What else should I mention? There are countless things you get all when you meet someone in person and talk for 15 minutes that would take very long paragraphs to describe and "justify".

[whalesalad]

Mention the things that make you distinctly you. Even if you think they make you less attractive.

Your goal is to be yourself and attract people who like you as you are. Then you don’t have to be someone you aren’t.

I’d recommend the book Models by Mark Manson.

[the_only_law]

Yeah I’m really jaded in regards to online dating. Ofc, I’m jaded about most online interaction at this point. I’ve half way considered trying to seriously use one of these apps, but I usually just delete it within a week. I just don’t think I can succinctly reduce my personality to an “acceptable” bio and a handful of pictures. Then again “online” has almost been the only place I’ve met people my age the past few years.

[nradov]

If you feel like your accent is hurting your social life then you can hire a voice coach to work on that.