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by actuator 1974 days ago
Surprising. Out of the three you mentioned I like Hinge to be the neatest one in terms of idea, although the worst app out of the three. The prompt/photo comments approach allows for a better conversation starter than bios IMO. Also, being able to see who is liking you by default is much better.

Way back when I used Bumble, a lot of girls used to drop 'Hi!'(double standards), and never bothered to reply to my reply which felt very annoying to say the least.

I would wish every dating app to add a simple feature, if the other person is active on the dating app and isn't responding to you, just unmatch the pair say after two/three days of the last message. I don't understand what's the purpose of just being a name/chat on someone's list.

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> just unmatch the pair say after three days of the last message.

This is a good point. However, some women (due to men spamming them) don't have notifications turned on, so genuinely don't get around to seeing a message until they have time to sit down and scroll through the pile

Also (as I'm sure you know), anything that can be used as a "measure of cool" will be used as just that. And having a huge list of matches can be a huge self-esteem boost to some.

I agree with your point though. It can be tiresome to have to periodically clean out matches every so often

> However, some women (due to men spamming them) don't have notifications turned on

That's why I wrote "if the other person is active on the dating app and isn't responding to you, just unmatch the pair say after"

> anything that can be used as a "measure of cool" will be used as just that.

Agreed. I have been guilty of this as well, though I also do realize that it is still a human being at the other end and giving a closure by unmatching is much better than leaving it hanging.

> It can be tiresome to have to periodically clean out matches every so often

I think more than cleaning out the matches, if you were interested in someone and were having a conversation with them and suddenly they disappear, you don't know if that's just because of being busy. The delay might be just anxiousness for the other person.

Yeah the two things I liked about using hinge: 1. You can comment&like a pic/prompt that the other person will see 2. Girls can 'invite you' to initiate the conversation

Ultimately the types of girls to use bumble in my college, home town, and when traveling aligned with the types of girls I like. I know hinge is super popular in major cities like LA/NYC. But in the suburbs of SoCal 90%ish of hinge girls seemed socially awkward and I did not find their pics/writing prompts attractive.

Yeah girls do tend to drop 'hi! :)' on bumble. You just have to be clever when responding to it. I treat it as she is signaling me to make the 'opening move' which sets the tone of the whole conversation.

You can always unmatch (on any dating app) if the conversation stales. At least bumble unmatches if the guy does not respond to the girl in 24 hours.