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> However, some women (due to men spamming them) don't have notifications turned on

That's why I wrote "if the other person is active on the dating app and isn't responding to you, just unmatch the pair say after"

> anything that can be used as a "measure of cool" will be used as just that.

Agreed. I have been guilty of this as well, though I also do realize that it is still a human being at the other end and giving a closure by unmatching is much better than leaving it hanging.

> It can be tiresome to have to periodically clean out matches every so often

I think more than cleaning out the matches, if you were interested in someone and were having a conversation with them and suddenly they disappear, you don't know if that's just because of being busy. The delay might be just anxiousness for the other person.