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by perfmode 2153 days ago
it’s true it indicates a failure of imagination, but i wouldn’t be so quick to make a personal indictment.

i, too, have been financially independent for the past year. past employer IPO. modest take.

for the past couple months, i’ve struggled with the same issue described by the OP.

for me, it’s a challenge of community. i spent so long living the silicon valley engineer lifestyle, along with others on that same track.

now, i find myself without community. in college, i dated liberal arts majors who live in co-ops, prioritize relationships, etc. i know they’re all out there in the world living out the type of life that remains a projection for me.

it just feels challenging to jump out of my self and my habits to start living a very different type of life.

this is my daily task. i understand it’s in my hands. my responsibility.

but feeling the acute challenge on a daily basis, i understand where the OP is coming from.

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The decisions I've made in my life which I've looked back on the most positively were ones that were far outside my comfort zone, and I'm not going to pretend I did that on my own courage. In every case it's been because someone gave me a kick in the pants. Call it a "personal indictment" if you wish, but the intentions aren't to hurt the person, it's to motivate them.
See my other comment, but I'd love to hear actionable steps to take to make these decisions with 'outside courage'!
This is a rough time for those without a strong community. I feel for you, good luck