[danbolt]

I found once I dropped certain stoic, masculine behaviours I felt expected from society I became more productive and a better person. There are a lot of people who show subtle hostility to me now (both men and women) but it's honestly not worth worrying what other people think. I'm way too relieved most days.

[Linell]

What are the behaviors?

[aspaceman]

Lot of folks get upset when men mention getting upset at something. Ex. "That hurt my feelings." "I don't like that you said that." "That made me happy." "Wow I feel great." Etc.

Men are commonly expected to be stoic and not express such things and just "go about their day". If they don't, it's viewed as dramatic and over-expressive. It's interpreted as immaturity, imo.

[danbolt]

Off the top of my head, the things I do more now are: - putting more effort into my appearance in nontraditional ways (eg: makeup, androgynous clothing, haircuts, etc.) - mentioning that I'm frustrated by something - acting naturally when people might be goading me into confrontational behaviour

[eebynight]

"...stoic, masculine behaviors I felt expected from society..."

I don't know what society you live in, but being stoic and masculine seems quite rare these days and is often frowned upon...

[jaynetics]

GP probably meant the pressure not to show weakness or emotion, which I'd say is still more commonly internalized by men.

[danbolt]

Jealous! I don't find that the case in Western Canada, personally.