[peterwwillis]

It's about sex, but it's also about entitlement. These men you're talking about believe that it's somehow unfair that they get "radio silence" when they "reach out". I'm sure they feel bad, but nobody victimized them. They're just insecure.

And, heh, hoooooo boy, yeah, let's talk about pressure. Let me tell you, as a man, I am pressured constantly to look good. All the makeup I put on every day, all the different outfits I own. All the work I have to do on my butt and abs, all the crazy crash diets I've gone on to try to slim down, the sheer amount of money I spend on my hair... You're right, it really is unfair how society pressures me, a cis man, to constantly look good and make lots of money, in order to be treated as a person.

[jimmaswell]

I know lots of women that don't do any of those things and get "treated as a person" perfectly fine. None of that is remotely necessary to get dates as a woman. Including weight, lots of guys like heavier girls but it's practically a death sentence for men.

If you really think lonely people are just victimizing themselves then you need to make a better attempt at having empathy skills. It /is/ grossly unfair having to live like that. Unfair having to get catcalled too but as I said in another comment I'd have picked that over what my life had to be like in an instant.

[youareostriches]

You are responsible for your own life and happiness — not society and not some imagined social monolith of “all women”.

If you are unhappy with where you are today then it is your responsibility to take reasonable and appropriate action to change that.

Learn how to be an adult.

[jimmaswell]

"It's not society's job to be fair to you," said the employer to the Irish immigrant in 19th century America. The Irishman needed to learn how to be an adult and stop whining about hiring discrimination - it was his responsibility alone to find a job and be happy, not some imagined monolith of "all employers."

[viklove]

This is a great example of casual misandry. You seem to think men have no issues, and only women have difficult lives. That simply isn't true. Men and women both face issues, and both have issues that are both significant and insignificant. Try to learn some empathy.