[jimmaswell]

I know lots of women that don't do any of those things and get "treated as a person" perfectly fine. None of that is remotely necessary to get dates as a woman. Including weight, lots of guys like heavier girls but it's practically a death sentence for men.

If you really think lonely people are just victimizing themselves then you need to make a better attempt at having empathy skills. It /is/ grossly unfair having to live like that. Unfair having to get catcalled too but as I said in another comment I'd have picked that over what my life had to be like in an instant.

[youareostriches]

You are responsible for your own life and happiness — not society and not some imagined social monolith of “all women”.

If you are unhappy with where you are today then it is your responsibility to take reasonable and appropriate action to change that.

Learn how to be an adult.

[jimmaswell]

"It's not society's job to be fair to you," said the employer to the Irish immigrant in 19th century America. The Irishman needed to learn how to be an adult and stop whining about hiring discrimination - it was his responsibility alone to find a job and be happy, not some imagined monolith of "all employers."