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by znt 5611 days ago
This happened to me twice too. It hurt really, really deep. I was trying to find my way through romantic relationships with the help of some "pick up strategies".

Do not take any negative comment from a woman (or anyone) personally. Perception is projection most of the time.

Try to look at your actions and characteristics from the outside objectively (observing ego). Fix any flaws you can find about yourself (Excessive weight, bad teeth, fidgeting too much, weak vocal projection, not being able to let go while with a woman etc)

The most helpful advice about women and dating was looking at the dating scene like a computer game. When you lose you go back to the start (with a different woman). The more you play, the more experience you get, the further you advance the next time.

I know it sounds cold and apathetic, but I couldn't have gotten my current girlfriend if I hadn't failed at my previous experiences. I analyzed every mistake I made, learned from them.

Sorry to say this, but you should be able to endure some pain if you want to be successful with women. Just don't get angry with them and don't take it personally. 95% of the time it's the men's fault when the relationship stops going anywhere. 5% of the time it's psycho women, but they're somewhat rare.

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I've done a lot of that. I've lost weight, gotten into better physical shape, and am actually seeing someone pretty neat now.

But I find myself late at night when I'm alone fixating on the criticisms from this woman.

That you've fixed the problems she mentioned and found another girlfriend you're happy with should be in the original problem statement. That indicates a larger--or at least stranger--problem than usual.