[dufusheart]

I've done a lot of that. I've lost weight, gotten into better physical shape, and am actually seeing someone pretty neat now.

But I find myself late at night when I'm alone fixating on the criticisms from this woman.

[khafra]

That you've fixed the problems she mentioned and found another girlfriend you're happy with should be in the original problem statement. That indicates a larger--or at least stranger--problem than usual.