[VladimirIvanov]

I recently had a bizare experience. My girlfriend that I met in college and was dating for 4 years broke up with me and a week later I saw her profile on Bumble.

It was definitely very upsetting. Women have a lot more power with online dating and can essentially meet someone at anytime if they are good looking. I don't doubt that she has dozens or even hundreds of messages from guys.

I don't have many high quality pictures and I don't do very well.

In online dating it's definitely true that a small percentage of men (say 20%) has sex and the opportunity for a relationship with the majority of women (say 80%).

So I guess I will be single for awhile

[matz1]

>I don't have many high quality pictures and I don't do very well.

So you know recognize your problem area, then go work on improving those. Get fit and dress better. Get professional photographer to took your pictures, etc. Women too has too spend time and effort on these.

[ikeyany]

Better to be single than with someone who would throw away a serious relationship for some flings. At the very least be thankful she had the decency to end things with you first.

[blub]

People don't just switch off after four years.

It's pretty likely that the relationship was dead for a while from her perspective. It's just that OP was blind to the signs.

[b_tterc_p]

You’re subtly insinuating that the woman was being shallow or petty, when in fact, she could have just not wanted to move forward with the relationship.

[ikeyany]

Weird, I thought I was overtly insinuating that. It did happen the week after a 4+ year serious relationship ended, after all.

[b_tterc_p]

Why do you believe that the woman owes the man anything after ending the relationship? A woman is not obligated to feel emotionally conservative just because her former partner does.

[jammygit]

...I promise you that getting those first dates is a learnable skill like everything else