You kind of chose that life with complete impudence, internet stranger. No one trips while walking and finds themselves with twelve kids.
...You're not the person that decided to have so many kids because of a fear that having only a few, and then all of them dying of some sort of one in a million chance catastrophe would leave you distraught, were you?
1. Is there some rule that people are only allowed to make decisions that make them personally and continually happy? There are any number of good and pure reasons to choose a difficult life and also remain human and be able to communicate the difficulties of that life.
2. Why the general disdain for people with more than the normal number of kids? This person that you have admitted do not know is very different from you, certainly, but does not deserve the negative undertones given here.
I say these things as a father of 4 adopted children that are both the biggest challenge and blessing in my and my wife’s life.
It's 100% natural with 1 wife. Homeschooling takes time.
I almost bought a house that had been used as a foster home. It was disturbing. Everything everywhere had locks. Even the drawers in the kitchen had individual key-based locks. You needed a key to open the drawer. There were camera feeds all across the house. The windows were secured against exit.
Genuinely curious as to why you chose to have 12 kids. I don't have any and have no plans to father any either (you've had my quota for me, thanks!) but I can vaguely see the appeal of one or two but 12? That sounds incredibly difficult physically, mentally and financially.
That's with a 40-hour work week, a 3-minute commute, and none of that gym/fitness time.