[twodave]

This comment bothers me on a few levels.

1. Is there some rule that people are only allowed to make decisions that make them personally and continually happy? There are any number of good and pure reasons to choose a difficult life and also remain human and be able to communicate the difficulties of that life.

2. Why the general disdain for people with more than the normal number of kids? This person that you have admitted do not know is very different from you, certainly, but does not deserve the negative undertones given here.

I say these things as a father of 4 adopted children that are both the biggest challenge and blessing in my and my wife’s life.

[elif]

I think he's being more critical about complaining about it than about the decision itself.

[twodave]

I would agree if it weren’t a thread to talk about free time and if the OP was actually complaining and not simply describing reality.