[goodJobWalrus]

It's tough, because you are a pain in the ass, and not even realize it? (especially if coupled by arrogance).

[matz1]

You don't have to please anyone, regardless what you do there are always going to be someone somewhere who think you are pain in the ass.

If I'm smart and capable and someone find me pain in the ass, then well too bad, thats your problem.

[bambataa]

If you're smart and capable then you should also have sufficient social skills for people not to think you're a pain in the ass.

[matz1]

Regardless how much social skill you have, there are going to people who think you are pain in the ass.

If they think I'm in pain in the ass they are the one who has problem.

[PhasmaFelis]

There'll always be someone who doesn't like you, but you can minimize that number by your own actions.

If everyone dislikes you, then they'll make it your problem. You can gripe about it, or you can try to change what you can.

[matz1]

>but you can minimize that number by your own actions

you can but you don't necessarily have to.

>If everyone dislikes you, then they'll make it your problem

its unlikely that everyone hates me, even hitler has people who like him or I don't gripe in the first place and then still depends on what they actually do.

[MegaButts]

> >If everyone dislikes you, then they'll make it your problem

> its unlikely that everyone hates me, even hitler has people who like him

Maybe I'm too tired to pick up on the satire, but this is just needlessly pedantic and does nothing to contribute to the conversation.

I see a series of people pointing something out to you, and you continually pushing back on why they are wrong. I guess the question to ask is how are you so sure you're right when everyone else is telling you that you're wrong?

Something that has gone a long way for me to better myself throughout my life is to recognize that when everyone is telling me I'm wrong, it's almost certain they are right and I am the one who needs to change. And if I still think I'm right, I should be able to communicate it effectively enough that others will agree with me. If not, then it literally is me against the world and even if I'm right what fucking good is that?

[Veen]

Perhaps, but if everyone finds you a pain in the ass, it’s your problem — assuming you want to work with people, have friends, engage in intimate relationships, and so on.

[matz1]

yes, assuming I want to work with the specific people/group.

but its unlikely that everyone hates me, even hitler has people who like him

[amicability]

You don’t have to please anyone.

You don’t have to make anything, go anywhere, or discover anything, either.

Seems like you’ll be happier in the long run if you do, though.