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by bambataa 2549 days ago
If you're smart and capable then you should also have sufficient social skills for people not to think you're a pain in the ass.
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Regardless how much social skill you have, there are going to people who think you are pain in the ass.

If they think I'm in pain in the ass they are the one who has problem.

There'll always be someone who doesn't like you, but you can minimize that number by your own actions.

If everyone dislikes you, then they'll make it your problem. You can gripe about it, or you can try to change what you can.

>but you can minimize that number by your own actions

you can but you don't necessarily have to.

>If everyone dislikes you, then they'll make it your problem

its unlikely that everyone hates me, even hitler has people who like him or I don't gripe in the first place and then still depends on what they actually do.

> >If everyone dislikes you, then they'll make it your problem

> its unlikely that everyone hates me, even hitler has people who like him

Maybe I'm too tired to pick up on the satire, but this is just needlessly pedantic and does nothing to contribute to the conversation.

I see a series of people pointing something out to you, and you continually pushing back on why they are wrong. I guess the question to ask is how are you so sure you're right when everyone else is telling you that you're wrong?

Something that has gone a long way for me to better myself throughout my life is to recognize that when everyone is telling me I'm wrong, it's almost certain they are right and I am the one who needs to change. And if I still think I'm right, I should be able to communicate it effectively enough that others will agree with me. If not, then it literally is me against the world and even if I'm right what fucking good is that?

>Something that has gone a long way for me to better myself throughout my life is to recognize that when everyone is telling me I'm wrong, it's almost certain they are right

Maybe but its not always. Isn't there many people who become famous inventor or great discovery made because they goes againts the commonly held idea.

> Isn't there many people who become famous inventor or great discovery made because they goes againts the commonly held idea.

No. There are a few - probably something like 1 in 10,000,000 or so. Which echoes the most important part of my comment - what makes you so sure you're right when you've failed to convince anyone in this comment thread of anything other than you're a difficult individual?

Maybe you're the next Isaac Newton, but I'd literally take 1,000,000:1 odds you suffer from some combination of a superiority complex and delusional thinking.