[the_fonz]

China is far, far worse with the sex ratio being incredibly imbalanced due to the past one child policy. There's a number of documentaries about the craziness and competitiveness of dating in China. People not having sex, not having families (if they so desire) and not making enough money to be comfortable anywhere is a national emergency.

American men of any sort can just go to Brazil, Mexico, Ukraine or the Czech Republic... where an endless supply of objectively-attractive women are willing to hookup with foreigners for very little or no relative cost. (Prague 10's for 60€/hour.) Rent a huge villa for cheap for a few weeks in Central and South America, the girls beat down your door like they're meeting a celebrity... they will bring their girlfriends if you ask them for a good old hellraising.

LDOW (older women) from the US visit Jamaica, Haiti, Costa Rica and parts of Africa for sex tourism, formally or informally, because of the abundance of fit men.

I think frustrated dudes need a shift in attitude, a more open-mind and make an effort for their own sake. A more pleasing personality, better social adroitness and improved awareness goes a long ways to many things in life.

[ilaksh]

I don't have a villa or anything but I have a pretty decent apartment on the beach in Mexico. I work for a startup so I'm not wealthy at all but still am doing better than 80% of men in this country. I'm also have an oddly asymmetrical face and look like I'm sick all the time due to some chronic health problems. Girls are not beating down my door. Actually I gave up on Tinder here awhile ago and I don't try to meet women who are the least bit attractive because its obvious they are not interested.

Prostitution is not really what this article is about, but even as far as that goes, really good looking prostitutes kind of try to avoid the ugly guys (although they won't actually say no, they just generally aren't enthusiastic). I have kind of proven that on a few occasions.

Anyway this is kind of a long way of saying that there is a limit to how far being American or "a shift in attitude" will take you as far as sex if you're unattractive. Its not a substantive part of my life and that's something I've just had to accept. I have more or less substituted that with masturbation on the internet to be honest.

[justwalt]

I don’t agree that these are good solutions. A lot of these frustrated men are simply looking for companionship. Not to mention the unrealistic prospect of someone flying to another country for some casual sex. Not everyone can afford that kind of thing.

[Cthulhu_]

And even if you CAN afford it, it's still a huge step to take - from a life of low social interaction to a foreign country to play the part of a playboy?

I mean I'd probably be up for it if I was still single, but where do you even start? Is that even legal? You'd be under some serious scrutiny if you were to go on a sex vacation to Thailand for example due to the prevalence of child abuse (and child sex tourism) there.

I do know one guy (very much a jock) who openly goes on sex vacations, not even the kind where you have to pay for it. He just gets on Tinder and does his thing. Good for him, not my thing - even if I'm a bit jealous, it's a lifestyle and a social situation I don't want to be a part of.

[arvinsim]

> I think frustrated dudes need a shift in attitude, a more open-mind and make an effort for their own sake. A more pleasing personality, better social adroitness and improved awareness goes a long ways to many things in life.

Yeah, the "just be yourself" narrative needs to die. Not because it's false(you should be authentic in your words and actions) but because it is used as an excuse to not make an effort to self-improve.