[arvinsim]

> I think frustrated dudes need a shift in attitude, a more open-mind and make an effort for their own sake. A more pleasing personality, better social adroitness and improved awareness goes a long ways to many things in life.

Yeah, the "just be yourself" narrative needs to die. Not because it's false(you should be authentic in your words and actions) but because it is used as an excuse to not make an effort to self-improve.