[jelliclesfarm]

I know I am going to be downvoted for sure..but I will say it anyways..

Why do adults have children if they are not sure they can give them the very best they need to survive in a world that is increasingly hostile to their survivability?

When survival is based on money and money is based on finding work and that is dependent on quality of education, shouldn’t parents plan ahead before they bring a child that is absolutely dependent on that for every need? Where is the personal responsibility?

[ddingus]

Yes

The fact is, we just do not need to be that shitty.

And the child is with us no matter what we think of the parents.

I have one I more or less have to care for right now. I did not fuck the mother, in fact, didn't make any of the choices.

And talk accountability all day long. But there it is, child in the street, or...

We can do better than this. We need to long before we resolve all the petty squabbles over who should have done what in a risky world no matter what we do.

[jelliclesfarm]

I agree. Children are humanity’s ‘high’. It’s a gut instinct to want to protect them and see ourselves in their future. I can go on and on here, but when I see a child, I do think that product of DNA combination is an outright miracle with so much possibilities. More like a gamble if I think long enough.

Lately I have come to believe that it is evolutionarily hardwired in us to want to protect all children. It’s almost like a fierce survival instinct at species level. Still..there is a split between gut level instinct to protect what will perpetuate our species and rational thinking. It’s like we are running two different programs. Their outputs may not be similar to each other.

Having said that, back to my first sentence...the ‘high’ has become an addiction. People are coming to believe that..indeed!!..there is a ‘village’ somewhere with an army of villagers waiting to raise their child and if they drive around long enough asking for directions to said village, they will safely arrive at the destination.

It is naive to believe that all people who are capable of having children are capable of shouldering that responsibility. Where does that leave the rest of us. The government, I fear..has slipped in like a thief in the dark and insidiously inserted itself to create conformity and clones and future tax payers by taking over the public school system and redistributing the assets of the commons to those who can have more children.

Taking over child rearing by incentivizing and subsidizing parents is just wrong. And even there it’s false advertising. It’s redistribution of the assets of the commons to fulfill a larger agenda where all the players don’t have a say. This is rather worrisome. Why aren’t we worried?

[ddingus]

Regarding your comments about subsidizing the parents, again we don't need to be that shitty. Things happened to well meaning people just as much as things happen to people who aren't thinking about things very much. If we require people to think about things to the degree were talking about in this thread, and we hold them very firmly accountable, we're going to live in a much more shitty world than we need to. I'm not down for that.

[ddingus]

I see it that way too. We never know what we're going to get. And that kid I'm taking care of? Could cure cancer or something. You never know. In any case they're going to care for us when we're old, so we might as well be decent people about it on the way there.

[tmaly]

You assume only adults have children with this statement. This is not entirely a correct assumption given the number of teen pregnancies.

[jelliclesfarm]

I remember reading somewhere that it has gone down. And that people are having more children as they are older these days.