| Pro-life as a man = sexist because you're trying to control women Strict immigration laws, particularly around deportation or punishments for illegal entrance = racist Lowering or abolishing minimum wage = racist and you hate the poor Any comment on Islam that isn't rah-rah = racist (which is fascinating since religion != race, but there you go) Death Penalty = racist (disproportionate representation of African-Americans on death row) Religious as a man = usually leads to sexist claims if a member of a conservative sect As a white woman who tries hard to find common ground before disagreeing, has lived extensively in different African countries, and firmly believes we are ALL sexist and racist, I tend to get more attacks that I'm heartless and/or brainwashed. I try to defang the racist/sexist attacks right off the bat by getting mutual agreement that we all are and our job is to work on offsetting it as much as possible. But my white male SO who, God help him, isn't willing to do the 10-20 minute reassurance dance before getting to the actual debate? My God, he can't even TALK about most of these issues without getting labeled something horrible or a shut down of "check your privilege" that, if he ignores it, leads to some kind of racist/sexist label. |