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We always hear that we're social creatures, and as you said, that human contact is built into our DNA. But, almost everything you mentioned is successful by choice. If we're that social, why are we ordering pizza to our house and not socializing at the local pizzeria or arranging a neighborhood pizza potluck? If we crave interaction, why are we having groceries delivered to our kitchen and not going to the local market and making friends? Something doesn't add up here. Are we more lazy than social? We kind of want to socialize at the pizzeria, but we'd prefer to sit on the couch and eat pizza while watching Netflix? If that's true, then why not embrace our lazy selves? Are we scared? We want to socialize at the pizzeria, but we're concerned we might say the wrong things, or not be attractive enough. It makes us nervous and causes anxiety, and we can avoid those feelings by staying home. Or do we just selectively want to socialize? We might not value conversation at the pizzeria, but we just need a partner at home, and a good friend as a neighbor, and that meets our requirements. If we don't have that partner or friend, we feel a need to socialize, but at the same time, we know that pizzeria can't fulfill that need, so we stay home and remain lonely. I really don't know what's going on, but there are lots of opportunities to socialize, so either we're not that social, or something is holding us back. |
We're also tribal, and we don't see those people (pizza worker, grocer, etc.) as part of our tribe. People need a central rallying "thing." Historically this has been genetics, religion, that sort of thing. This is one of the downfalls of multiculturalism, we have not yet figured out what to put as the central "thing" for us to feel like we're all part of the same tribe.