[brown-dragon]

28 years! It frightens me and boggles my mind how something like this can happen after being married for so long. Looking back do you have any idea why? I'm sorry for your loss and I hope it'll get better for you soon. As others have said it's perfectly normal to feel depressed at such a life altering event and it probably does take a year or two to recover.

[adamc]

Some chronic depression before, maybe. But mostly, she said she wanted to find herself, and she couldn't do that with others around -- too hard to "hear herself think".

Which is to say, I don't really know and never will.

[brown-dragon]

I guess there are somethings you just have to let go off. I'm sorry man - I know it must have been hard. I hope it's getting better everyday.