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by hobonumber1 2878 days ago
Why do you feel anxious? What's the root cause of the anxiety?
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That I don't know exactly. Anything that requires interaction with people makes me want to avoid it even if I actually want/need it. It's possible something in my childhood affected me but I don't know what (no one in my family is like me)
I have the exact same issue as you would also be interested in addressing the problem
I'm the exact same way
Hey @locococo, @0x01030307 Good to know there are people who are similar!
Are you comfortable around any people? Family, friends or some other?
Not really, obviously I feel more relaxed around people I know but I'm never really comfortable.
I can empathize with your struggle.

>Anything that requires interaction with people makes me want to avoid it even if I actually want/need it

I used to think this was some rare personality defect or freak in my education/formative years. I later realized that it meant I was simply a bit shy/too accommodating of other people/not confident enough in myself to speak. Perhaps you can get over it by resolving to be more courageous and not shy away/put in the effort for interaction. It's an effort for sure - it takes brain cycles and effort to interact with others. Some people get this easier because of practice (through family/friends) and I basically assume I didn't get enough practice in childhood. TLDR; don't over-think it :)

Yeah, I definitely think that I lack confidence in social situations but too often it's just too much and I withdraw almost completely.