[adbge]

Indeed, he should stick to his own race! /s

Seriously, the rhetoric around dating foreign women is absurd. Gross and exploitative? A consensual relationship? /Really?/

Compare, for instance, the socially mandated opinions we're supposed to hold around adopting a child from a foreign country versus "mail-ordering" a bride. Most of the moral arguments for the former apply just as much toward the latter, yet the latter is "gross and exploitative"--why?

Perhaps it has something to do with the fact that the first is associated with movie stars while the second is mostly low-status men?

[meowface]

The issue isn't with dating foreign women, but moving to a low GDP/standard of living country because you want to more easily find a partner. The reasoning is "women are more likely to date me, have sex with me, or marry me because my race is a status symbol / because I have money". This is not the foundation to a healthy relationship.

[mercer]

I'm not saying I disagree, but still: why not?

More than one person I know is in a relationship with someone from a 'poorer' country and both parties seem to be pretty happy with the outcome. And wasn't just men who were from the richer countries either.

[meowface]

I'm sure there are many people who meet organically with people from developing countries and start a genuine romantic relationship, but that doesn't appear to be what the parent poster was talking about.

[mercer]

It's also not exactly what I was referring to.

1. What's wrong with a relationship that isn't "organic". What does that even mean exactly? 2. Same goes for "genuine".

I can see how there's degrees of 'health' to various approach, as well as ethical concerns, but I strongly disagree that the approach should by default or ideally be (primarily) 'organic' and 'romantic'.

[donttrack]

Totally agree. I am sick and tired of being judged by people - especially western women - who thinks I am exploiting some young Asian woman. It makes me quite angry sometimes - they don’t know anything about us or how we live.