[throwaway2041]

Chatting up a stranger is not 'borderline harassment'. Harassment is harassment. There's a correct way to approach someone in a non-threatening manner, and more men should take the time to learn how to respectfully strike up conversation with strangers (in both romantic and non-romantic contexts)

Given the cultural norms around dating require men to initiate the conversation 95%+ of the time, there's a real risk of demonizing men's efforts to initiate conversation. If nobody approaches, then a lot of great connections never get formed.

[alimw]

> Given the cultural norms around dating require men to initiate the conversation 95%+ of the time

If that is your impression it may say more about you than the world around you. But of course I don't know where you live.

> there's a real risk of demonizing men's efforts to initiate conversation.

I doubt the species will die out. Perhaps some of those reticent women you know will have to make more of an effort!

[hndamien]

This is what they call "Game" and it too is learnable. Being relaxed is a big part of it.

[Toast_25]

Sadly I believe this term has a misogynist undertone. I learned about talking to women like that and while it had enormous benefits, they also didn't really teach what was appropriate and had to learn them as well as un-learn a few bad habits.

[hndamien]

“Game” is not misogynistic. If you think that then I don’t think you quite understand it. It is about a reduction in ego via self acceptance. Self confidence and self worth through emotional intelligence. Basically if you understand the teachings on Daniel Goleman, you will end up with “Game”. I think you think I mean a “player” which I totally agree with you on.