[alimw]

> Given the cultural norms around dating require men to initiate the conversation 95%+ of the time

If that is your impression it may say more about you than the world around you. But of course I don't know where you live.

> there's a real risk of demonizing men's efforts to initiate conversation.

I doubt the species will die out. Perhaps some of those reticent women you know will have to make more of an effort!