[dang]

This crosses into personal attack, which is not allowed here and which we ban accounts for. It was also particularly tasteless to post that here. Would you please read https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and not post like this again?

[sridca]

Can I ask you why this comment was flagged but the sibling one (by xab9), which says the same thing, was not?

[hackits]

A personal attack is to insult some-one or to be-little them. It is a recommendation of some very worrisome warning signs of the post.

[Dumbdo]

It certainly was be-littling him. You may be right, but especially on such a sensible topic it's all about how you write it.

[hackits]

belittle dismiss (someone or something) as unimportant.

Recommending some-one go and seek help or signs or warning signs of underlying dependency that isn't healthy for a strong mature relationship is not belittling someone. Instead its is concern and recommendation to seek help is caring about some-one I have no social relationship to. If I didn't care I wouldn't say anything.