[Dumbdo]

It certainly was be-littling him. You may be right, but especially on such a sensible topic it's all about how you write it.

[hackits]

belittle dismiss (someone or something) as unimportant.

Recommending some-one go and seek help or signs or warning signs of underlying dependency that isn't healthy for a strong mature relationship is not belittling someone. Instead its is concern and recommendation to seek help is caring about some-one I have no social relationship to. If I didn't care I wouldn't say anything.