I hope you haven't driven since 2012 as well because that's orders of magnitude more dangerous. For any single flight, the probability of dying is vanishingly small.
No, they aren't. It feels vastly different knowing that if there is an accident while flying you are almost guaranteed to die, while a road accident is almost guaranteed not to kill you.
That's not how risk works, though. The probability of dying from a gunshot to the head are basically 1, but the probability of that event happening is basically 0. So it wouldn't make sense to never go outside because getting shot in the head is almost certain death; the risk that matters is of the event itself happening, not the outcome given that the event has already occurred.
It wouldn't make sense to never go outside, that is correct.
It would make sense, however, to avoid high crime areas, large and violent gatherings of people like riots, etc.
And if you were truly, truly, truly paranoid, you could wear a kevlar helmet around. People might think you are a complete freak, but war journalists do it.
My point here is, when I'm driving a car, I can control my personal risk.
With flying, most of the risk factors are completely out of my hands. I can only control the number of times I fly. And if they were legal, I could wear a parachute.
I know that HN is a very specific crowd, but humans are not machines - just because I know flying is safer than driving does not make me feel any better about it. Same reason why I feel very unsafe when I'm a passanger in a car vs. driving myself - I feel in control of the situation, even though statistically it's not a safe situation to be in at all.