[jgrahamc]

A common urge when someone passes is to want to do something to honor them; be that planting a tree, naming a trophy or starting a foundation.

I'm not sure the Internet really makes those things easier. Seriously, planting a tree is easier with the Internet?

I've thought a lot about my own death and what I want from the people who love me is that they weep. I don't want some legacy implanted on the world as if I, one of billions, deserves that. But I do want those around me to care, and to express it. Seriously, if you are one of my loved ones and I'm dead then be human and weep.

[tptacek]

I think about this every once in awhile, and as a husband and father of two, I'd rather my family has a huge party and is happy for how lucky I've been and how much fun I've had. I don't want people I like to have to weep.

[jgrahamc]

I see where you are coming from. I just don't want me loves ones constrained by some phony dignity or decorum.