[tptacek]

I think about this every once in awhile, and as a husband and father of two, I'd rather my family has a huge party and is happy for how lucky I've been and how much fun I've had. I don't want people I like to have to weep.

[jgrahamc]

I see where you are coming from. I just don't want me loves ones constrained by some phony dignity or decorum.